Friday, August 20, 2010

What should i do if my best guy firend wants to hve sex and i dont? how do i save the relationship?

To start off im almost 14 and he is 15. We have been firends for about 5 years and now he says he wants to go. So I said yes. Than about a week later this whole sex thing came up and he says if i dont have sex with him he will tell everyone i cheated on him and had sex with his best friend. We are supossed to do it this Friday so i need help fast. I want to save our relationship, at least as friends. Someone please help me!What should i do if my best guy firend wants to hve sex and i dont? how do i save the relationship?
Whatever you do, please don't sleep with him. I'm going to be blunt: he doesn't love you and I'd question whether or not he even cares about you as a friend. A friend, ESPECIALLY as a best friend, would never try to pressure you into having sex by threatening to blackmail you like that. That's a truly despicable act that indicates a strong potential for abuse. I personally don't even understand why you would want to remain friends with someone who clearly disrespects you by trying to take advantage of your trust. If I were you, I'd break up with him immediately (like, right now) and avoid him until he starts treating you the way a real friend would.What should i do if my best guy firend wants to hve sex and i dont? how do i save the relationship?
He's playing you like a fiddle, girl. You are too young to have sex, he is pressuring you for one thing only and that is it. Dump him because he is using you just for the SEX. This is no friend worth having to treat you this way. He is trying to scare you into having Sex with him. Ignore the threats and DUMP THE JERK, NOW!!!
Why would you even want to stay friends with him if he's doing this?





Have some self respect. End it now. You don't deserve that.
Exactly what is it about blackmailers (blackmail is a crime, BTW) you like that you would consider for one second keeping one in your life? Face it, anyone who attempts to force you to do something against your will is not a friend let a lone a best friend. Wake up and smell reality.
talk to him about it and if he can't understand then he's not good enough for you
Wow, that's tough. Well first of, he's not being a friend if he's threatning you like that, if i were you, i wouldn't want to save the friendship and if he reallys cares about you %26amp; the friendship you guys carry then he could make an *** of himself and say all of that, as long as you know it's not true, theres nothing you shouldn't worry about, don't make a mistake you'll regret later. Hope this helps !

Is it possible to be friends with a guy?

when your both really attracted to eachother and like eachother more than as friend type...i dont like jumping into a relationship without being a guys friend first for a good while..When i say friend i mean a real friend someone who i can be my self around and just hang out with a talk and have fun with..without kissing or cuo caking or adding any extra pressure.....If i cant be his friend then how can he become my boyfriend....Is it possible to be friends with a guy?
Go find a gay guy i heard they make good friends hahaIs it possible to be friends with a guy?
id say yes if u have good control over yur actions me on da other hand.... yeaa =]
Guys can't be casual friends with girls they find attractive period.
be friends first
of course! me and my bf are like best buds : )

How can i tell my friend someone dont like her?

my best friend of 12 years likes my friend and he don't like her in the same way she feel about him and she is always like talking about him when im with her... and where we are all together she just stares at him the whole time and talks about how she don't have a boyfriend and he just tries to change the subject ..and she stole his phone number out my phone and calls him all the time from private numbers..so how can i tell her she needs to stop with out hurting her??How can i tell my friend someone dont like her?
TELL HER,


someone that u really like doesnt like you but u have to promise not to get mad. then say the guys name and explain to her that he is a lil anoyed of her...


if she gets mad find another friend...


she has no reason to get mad...


itz not ur fault!!!!


GOOD LUCK!!!How can i tell my friend someone dont like her?
You shouldn't tell her. This is something she should learn for herself. Continue to be a positive friend but encourage her to actually come forward and tell the guy how she feels as opposed to flirting and borderline stalking tactics. The guy also needs to step up for himself. If he really didn't like all the attention he probably would have told her to stop by now, so this will probably continue until your friend actually approaches this guy point blank.
Yeah I agree you do just need to tell her. If she truly is your best friend she will listen to you and not get too angry. Point out what she's doing and show how obsessive she's being without using those words. Tell her the way to truly get the guys attention is too act confident and normal not needy and obvious. Tell her that you are all just better as friends anyway and it would be awkward for you if they started dating anyways. That way it gives her an out saying that she's going to do it for you not just because the guy doesn't like her.


Also, it might not hurt if you can find someone who does like her so she doesn't feel totally down on herself when you tell her that this guy doesn't.





Hope this helped. :)
I have the same situation. Just talk to her and tell her in a nice way that he's not interested. Or tell her about his flaws. Or have him tell her that he's not interested. Maybe then she'll get the picture. And if those don't work (when I did them they didn't) just tell her that it's really annoying when all she does is talk about him. Threaten her to not hang out anymore and maybe then she'll stop. When I did it she started to forget about him nd now she's in love with Justin Bieber, but she can't have him because I saw him FIRST!!!!
Make that boy have a girlfriend.


Try to make your friend like someone else.


Tell the girl that he does not like girls who do that and tell the boy the positive things about her and then you could try to hook them up.





Or just tell her that he does not like her she has been your friend for 12 years right. So she wont be mad at you.





And if you think she will get mad at you tell the boy to tell her nicely.


Or you could just make the boy act kind of mean to her and show her a boy that is nice,cute and likes her.
It's not your job to tell her. She won't listen to you anyway. It's the guy's job to tell her, and when he has enough of it, he will. If it hurts her feelings, that will be too bad, but sometimes people need to learn how to treat other people, and if they can't see it by circumstances, then they need to be told in words.
you could let her know in a nice way


that he doesn't really feel the same about her.....


But don't let that get to her because their are other guys out there!


I think she should know the Truth before she gets her feelings hurt


then she might be ''like why didn't you tell me this earlier'' that he didnt feel the same and that would hurt her more ...





best of luck!
it is going to be tough and she might think your jealous and like him yourself. Butt you should tell her, say i am telling you coz i care about you and i dont want you to get hurt later on. and maybe if she lays off and acts like she doesnt want him, he might start to like her. Tell her that. She will realise you are trying to help her.
Dear Young friend,


Don't tell her. Let her find out herself. If you tell her, she will think badly of you.





Just be a friend, and let her talk. Listen, that is what a good friend does. And she will discover soon enough that you are a good friend.





Biblelady75
It is not your place to tell her. It's his job. You say she is your friend do her a favor and stay out of it or I'll guarantee you she won't be your friend for long.A true friend trys to look out for the others feelings not bust their butt to give her bad news so they can gloat over it.
just tell him straight out that he likes you as a person but not as a friend or girlfriend eventually she will understand don't be mean or anything but you have to tell her or else he wont want to hang around you when she is around so think about how to tell her but you should tell her
You just should tell her that he likes her as a friend only, but I'm warning you she might get mad and say that you are just jealous and trying to get him for yourself, etc, so you might want to let the guy tell her himself.
Just tell her to chill out and the guy don,t like her the way she like him,you can do that because she is your friend.
Um, girl? I need to tell you something. He told me he doesn't like you the same way you like him, so...yeah. If she cries, let her.
Try telling her to not obsess, because he might not like her the same way. And also tell her that he might not want to talk all the time.
Tell her that he once mentioned that he only likes her as a friend and that if she doesn't back off it might damage the friendship.
just tell her. you cant avoid the situation or let her find out on her eventually.. she will have the same reaction better if yu just tell her
You have to tell him that she likes him, so he can tell her that he doesn't like her.
Just tell her. Honestly, my best friend is with me now and we discussed this question. We agree we'd prefer to be told if we were in your situation.
u cant protect her from everything. shes got life lessons to learn. just hint it at her, be like 'hes bad news' n if she doesnt listen thats her choice, it wont be ur fault
well tell her the truth and say it gently and nicely and shell understand trust me thats exactly what happened to my friend
You shouldnt have to tell her...the boy she likes needs to tell her
';Someone dislikes you';.
It's not your freaking business who she likes.
if you wanna be honest with your friend then you gotta tell her the truth...





remember the truth hurts.
Just tell her the truth that your friend doesnt like her u can't go wrong with just telling someone the truth
just tell her.. im sorry but he doesnt like you as a gf, just like a friend
tell her shes a dum ***** and give her a quarter to buy sumthin from da lil toy machine at sedanos
vagina
these types of questions have beeen repeated thousand of times
TELL HER STRAIGHTLY

Can someone help me out with this dream?

well, i was with my friend (someone) and he likes me, cause he told me. and after this one period at school he always walks to my last class and then I give him a hug goodbye, but in the dream, we were at my middle school, and instead of trying to giving me a hug goodbye, he tries to kiss, me but I push him away and he is bigger then me then he starts to force me to kiss him, and i struggle like someone would kidnapped a girl. but I don't know how but I manage to get away and then I start running around the school trying to get away from him, but then I am at the other end of the school and then I here my sister calling my name, saying that we could talk about this, but she said that in real life a couple days ago, then I woke up





mostly what I want to know is what did the conflict of him and I mean? well just cut my sister out of the dream, I HAVE A BF WHICH IS HIS FRIEND AS WELL. My bf and the guy that likes me are friends, and so i don't like him as a a bf, just as friend. tyCan someone help me out with this dream?
perhaps it's showing that the friend is having a war within himself and he's contemplating what to do, go for it even though his friend is dating you or stay put. However, on a normal day to day basis you wouldn't see these things or hear them, but subconsciously your mind may be trying to show you the struggle he goes through everyday because of his feelings for you-another tip-the whole hugging thing, sure you take it as only friendship but the problem is, it could be almost leading on in a way, so maybe you're seeing what may happen if you continue-just be careful.... I leave you with this:





';The course of true love never did run smooth.';


-ShakespeareCan someone help me out with this dream?
How is your relationship with your father?
You can dream, can't you.
perhaps it's showing that the friend is having a war within himself and he's contemplating what to do, go for it even though his friend is dating you or stay put. However, on a normal day to day basis you wouldn't see these things or hear them, but subconsciously your mind may be trying to show you the struggle he goes through everyday because of his feelings for you-another tip-the whole hugging thing, sure you take it as only friendship but the problem is, it could be almost leading on in a way, so maybe you're seeing what may happen if you continue-just be careful.... I leave you with this:





';The course of true love never did run smooth.';


-Shakespeare

Why is it so hard to make 'true' friends?

I will consider myself an honest person. Throughout my life the only types of 'friends' i find myself with are the ones who just use me and move on. I hv a few friends from school but they hv their lives. All I need to no is how do i meet someone whom i can consider a friend. Someone interesting, dependable and wont be like the others.........just for the moment.


Right now my only friends r my husband and my son. Well, he has his friends whom i 'share' but i want mine. Even one girlfriend......i hv nada. If any of u readers out there r like me and want to hv a 'true' friend who wont take u for granted please email me or drop me a line in this column.


Mind u im happy with my life just need a few good friends to enjoy it with. Sorry guys, i dont want to make my husband jealous. I'm looking for a female friend. Who has at least one kid. Im 31, stay at home mom. More info when u drop me a line. Hey, Im not a sorry case.Why is it so hard to make 'true' friends?
cuz lots of people are just stupid.





if u want true friends, just b urself and b true to urself. but seriously, dont trust everyone that u call 'friend', they have to prove to u that they are ur friends.





and all those fake friends...send them to hell!Why is it so hard to make 'true' friends?
ok
I am also interested in making true friends add me in ur messenger list


my id is vsenthil1981@yahoomail.com
Developing the kind of friendship that you want takes time, most times years and years to build up the trust and dependability of that person. Unless you are willing to put in the time and effort it takes to develop the kind of friendship you want, you will always have people that are acquaintances and not true friends. I have only three people, outside of my family, that I know that I can count on no matter what. All of them have been friends for more than 20 years.





Join groups that you have interests in, church or school organizations, and you will find people that you have a lot in common with that will turn out to be good friends.
GET A DOG... FOR REAL GET A DOG WALK IT AND TAKE IT TO ANIMAL EVENTS IN TEH COMMUNITY YOU'LL MEET OTHER ANIMAL LOVERS... ANIMAL LOVERS FOR THE MOST PART ARE COOL.... PLUS DOG ARE MORE LOYAL THEN PEOPLE ANYWAY.. PS MOST ANIMAL LOVES HAVE BEEN HURT BY OTHER PEOPLE THATS WHY THEY ARE ANIMAL LOVERS... SO RIGHT OFF THE BAT YOU FEEL ON ANOTHER .............. YOU DIGG??!!! GOOD LUCK
True friends are always with you.And you really like them and you know you guys will never fight and the thing of the fight is something not worth losing a friendship over.And they will always be by your side no matter what and will not join another group just because all of the populars or the crowed is there.They will always be by you no matter wut.


A true friend is someone who is never mean to you and makes you sad in anyway.And um,sometimes they can be boys too.But if you want a true girl friendlook for these.


Some one nice


Always with you


Never upsets you


Will never fight with you


Always talks and invites you to there party


And anything nice =)


But sometimes they have to move.=(

Can someone help me out with this dream?

well, i was with my friend (someone) and he likes me, cause he told me. and after this one period at school he always walks to my last class and then I give him a hug goodbye, but in the dream, we were at my middle school, and instead of trying to giving me a hug goodbye, he tries to kiss, me but I push him away and he is bigger then me then he starts to force me to kiss him, and i struggle like someone would kidnapped a girl. but I don't know how but I manage to get away and then I start running around the school trying to get away from him, but then I am at the other end of the school and then I here my sister calling my name, saying that we could talk about this, then I woke up





mostly what I want to know is what did the conflict of him and I mean? I HAVE A BF WHICH IS HIS FRIEND AS WELL. I love my bf with all of heart. My bf and the guy that likes me are friends, and so i don't like him as a a bf, just as friend.





what can the dream mean? without the sisterCan someone help me out with this dream?
Usually it means that deep down you have some feelings for him, and your afraid of them, or you feel like you couldn't handle liking your bf's friend.Can someone help me out with this dream?
I agree with Person ';It just means you are uncomfortable with him liking you';





You are friends and you can handle that but you are uncomfortable about his feelings for you. You may even have begun to feel vulnerable around him. That is a very uncomfortable situation. You are obviously intimidated but his ';trying to kiss you';... this is from your dream. Your salvation was your sister who 'happened' to be looking for you. You were already running away from this 'friend'





You should talk to your sister about this, your dream is indicating who is an ideal person to understand your position in this situation. The worst she can say to you is she is unable to help you, but at least you have gotten the whole dream off of your chest.
It means that the person pushing themselves on you is making you very uneasy. If the circumstance continues tell your boyfriend how his ';friend'; is treating you behind his back.
i think you know subconsciously that this person accepts the hug but wants alot more, and you know that this type of relationship is unacceptable and dreaming this is your way of reading between the lines.
It just means you are uncomfortable with him liking you
well i think the meaning is that your uncomfortable with him and u are scared weather he maydo that to u?such dreams are common when a person thinks of his/her friends,enemys,bf or gf etc well thats wwhat it means
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  • How do i become friends with someone who hates me?

    we used to be friends but now she hates me? how do i get her back as a friend?How do i become friends with someone who hates me?
    If someone hates you, they cant be your friend. But they can be your enemy.How do i become friends with someone who hates me?
    If someones picking on her..Stand up for her...she might say i don't need your help but keep trying.. Do something that you both enjoy....It's like saying finding common ground...Sports..take her to the movie...Buy her a gift...Why does she hate you btw? Don't try to hard though or she will just hate you more..Or you can make her feel bad that shes ignoring you (if shes ignoring you) Don't be her ********* either cuz she'll take advantage of you and other kidz will make fun of you. Hope i helped
    you usually wouldnt want to be friends with someone who hates you
    Theyre on a power trip.. hate them back and see how they re-act
    If she hates you why would you wanna be her friend again?