How do I stop being friends with someone without having them talk behind my back?

Ok so i have this best friend, and she is moody like every other day for attention and is always making lies up, and she will go behind my back and talk about me when she's mad, or say my boyfriend is really ugly to everybody, and she always thinks i copy her, and i just don't want to be friends with her anymore. But what can i do to ensure that she won't be talking about me behind my back because i don't want to be her friend anymore???How do I stop being friends with someone without having them talk behind my back?
Hi there, to answer your question, the answer is you can't. You can not stop her from talking about you to others. Look at it as it stands now. Right now she thinks you and her are friends, but yet she still talks bad about you when she is mad at you, and she disrespects you by talking about your boyfriend. So really, what do you have to lose? It sounds like rather you are friends with her or not, she is going to be talking bad about you either way.





You say she is moody every day and always wanted attention, which makes me believe she is lacking in some area. She probably does not feel good about herself in lots of ways. Of course she probably will not let you or others see this in her. People that don't feel good about themselves will hardly ever admit that, but there is a sure way that you can tell. What they do is always belittle others by putting them down and talking about them. That way, if they get the attention off of what is wrong with them and their insure ways, she hope that others will pick up on what she is saying and notice things bad about others. Trust me honey, if a person feels good about themselves, they want to make others feel good too. They are not afraid to share the ';spot light.'; But if you don't feel good about yourself, you want to bring everyone down with you. Do you understand what I mean?





This could be coming from how she was raised. How is her home life? It could be she is uncomfortable with her looks, her body, her friendships, her family, her grades, her dating, (or lack of it), as it seems she is jealous that you do have a boyfriend. And if she does have boyfriends, how do they treat her? It could just boil down to that. See it will be hard to find the reason, because these kind of people wants everyone to think they are on top of everything. Not a care in the world. Oh they might complain, but usually they make people think they are in control. They do not like to show their weakness.





I would sit her down and have a talk with her. You say she lies so don't expect to get too far with her though. But at least you will know that you tried on your part. Tell her how you don't like the way she acts and if she does not change it, you will have to stop hanging around her. Then it will all be up to her. You stay strong and keep your word of not taking it anymore. Yes, she will talk bad about you and you can not stop it, but anyone that doesn't know you, it won't matter and for the people that do know you, they will know when is telling lies. See what I mean? Correct anything she says that is not true when you hear it, but don't make a hobby out of it. You know by searching for what all she is saying about you. That would be falling into her trap. She would like for you to do that. Then she is still getting the attention of trying to make people think you are bad, while she comes out looking good. Real people with a real good heart will know the truth. Trust me honey, don't let her know it bothers you, because then she will be the winner. You just enjoy your boyfriend and your other friends, and don't even give it your time. The thing that will bother her the most, is if you don't act like it upsets you. If she thinks you are talking back about her, or if she knows you are crying or mad, or upset, she wins and you remember that. So please, don't say anything bad about her and don't let her or anyone else know, (because it will get back to her if you tell ANYONE) so just play it cool. In time when she sees it is not getting to you, she will move on to someone else. Things kind of people always do. They can't get their fun if they are not causing trouble. Trust me. Stay strong, laugh often and be happy. Good luck my friend, and know you can do this. So one chance for her and then move on. Aunt DeeDee.