Would You Be Friends With Someone Who Is Racist And Sexist?

A guy friend who is funny and who I like having discussions with likes to make racist and sexist remarks.





I guess I just can't stand those type of remarks, told him about it but he just tries to brush it off as jokes tells me women are not funny.





I guess it is offensive and hurtful and sometimes i wonder how some people can be so smart and funny but so stupid and bigoted at the same time.





Anyways I don't think I can be friends with someone like that. What do you think?Would You Be Friends With Someone Who Is Racist And Sexist?
Well, the choice is up to you. Just know that you can choose not to be his friend...but you can't try to change the way he feels... Only he himself can do that.





As for me, I don't know. I guess it depends. I don't mind sexist jokes as long as they don't go off the deep end. I guess it's different with every female. As for a racist...I would pray for him/her.Would You Be Friends With Someone Who Is Racist And Sexist?
Yes. I can tell them I don't agree with them. I can try to educate them. But in the end we are all individuals. If this person respects you, they will respect your feelings.





If he is truly OFFENSIVE or continuously crossing the line, then I don't see where the joy outweighs the disappointment. At that point, call it quits and move on.





I have friends who are very religious, so I watch my language around them out of respect for their feelings. I have friends who are very liberal or conservative...so I don't go out of my way to push my ideology on them out of respect. However, if these friends started making it unbearable for me, I would move on...just like I would expect they would do with me. Interesting question. Try talking to him very seriously, letting him know that if he continues to communicate these things to you, that you will have to move on. He should get the message. Good luck either way.
I'm not sure if telling sexist and racist jokes is sexist and racist.





I think it depends on how they are told, if they are funny, if he insults all races and sexes, and if there is some understanding to it. But you have to be certain that the person telling the jokes is not in fact racist or sexist.
Is he the kind of friend, who is going to be there for if you ever need him? If he's not, then cut him loose. If he is, lighten up. Not everyone will have the same beliefs as you, or think the same way. There is a lot more to a friendship, then someone making stupid remarks.
Hmm, my ex used to be like that. First thing i would try is if he says something racist or sexist, ignore it. he might just be doing it to get attention. But if that doesnt work, limit your time with him. Show him that you are serious about how you feel and what you think. If he doesn't respond to that,drop him.
I think I agree with You. Hate is such a major downer .I have no use for people like that in my life .


Life is too short for that .
I would like to have a beer with that guy. Sounds like a funny chap.
He really is a sexist and a dolt - doesn't sound like he is very sensitive or respectful towards you - I wouldn't put up with it.
I might associate with him, but I would also take him to task on his views.





Whether we could be friends or not would depend on how he could handle my criticism.
A minor ethical flaw.
No unless he was rich, and bought me things, then would use him.
If you think no, than obviously that's all that matters.
I wouldn't be friends with Chris Rock, but Obama likes him, so the president is saying that it is ';OK';
Good for you.
No.
Nope.
Why would you.
No. I will not be friends with Barry or Michelle.
No
no, I would have a problem with this.
No I wouldn't be friends with someone like that.
this friend wouldn't be me.....?





Although, I'm not so sexist... you gals do what ya want
It depends on whether the person is really joking or seriously believes in those stereotypes.





In my family, we tell all kinds of racial/prejudiced jokes. It's lighthearted and fun. Since my parents and family are all mixed races and bi-racial, it doesn't matter to us. We know it's only in fun and no one is serious. When we tell a joke, it can be about any race. It's hard to explain. When you have a family where no two skin colors are alike, telling a racist/prejudiced joke is a way of making fun of the idiots who believe in this stuff.





However, I have worked with people who WERE prejudiced. They were telling jokes but they serious believed in them too. It made me uncomfortable and I would always walk away. Most times, they would stop talking when I came near or (worse) spend 5 minutes telling me how they aren't really prejudiced.





There is a difference between racism and being prejudiced. Racism is the belief that one race is inherently superior to another. Prejudice is premature and irrational judgment. I have met very few people in my lifetime that are actually racists. I've met many who were prejudiced.





I have the same attitude about sexist jokes. I have just as much fun telling a joke about a female as of a male. My hubby and I are always joking and saying sexist things---but we know the stereotypes aren't real. After all, he has a white-collar job and does all of the domestic responsibilities around the house while I work in a blue collar, mechanical position very heavy equipment. If I was around someone who truly believed that a person's gender made them better/worse than others, then I'd be uncomfortable and not want to be around them.
That's strange.





You certainly couldn't be a Republican then.